These Are My Dates

These Are My Dates

The reality of “dating” is not what it used to be, that is a true statement that is honest for me.

Time is a luxury I can not afford, a sitter is required just to get out the door, I’m in college no more. I am a divorcee with two boys so a night on the town is needed but eludes me for chores.

But I’m the type of woman who wants to have a man to hold my hand and stand for “our land”. So I make the effort of dating, an effort it is, my potential asks “what would you like to do” and I think anything without kids. My second thought is lay down, I am tired and run down. Just to laugh and to talk lying horizontal and not walk.

But I can’t for obvious reasons, sex is very teasing and you’re still a stranger so it is not proper. I hope to hold out for the marital altar. I do.

So dating me is 15 minutes you see. I’ll meet you for coffee and then we shall see, what will be will be. At this age in the game you know or you don’t, are you the one for me or do I still travel alone? Don’t get me wrong, love grows like a flower, but in 15 minutes I can sense our power of you and me if we should go forward or flee.

If the flow is good let’s take 20 minutes and see, if you and me can share the reality of what we both want to create, to build with a helpmate. Then if we feel the glow of the flow, let’s take a walk. Chemistry is in motion not just in talk.

Do you and I feel good side by side? Do we bump when we walk? Do you grab my arm and guide me from a stumble that might happen? If I inhale as you do then there is electricity I can feel it from you.

Then there is the goodbye, always awkward and shy. Do we kiss or shake hands what’s appropriate in this foreign land of “dating”? Sometimes I am playful and I watch as he thinks do I go for the kiss oh what will she think? And I wait.

For me that kiss is a gateway to possibility, that first kiss is major don’t blow it baby. If our kiss makes me tingle and hungry for more I will pull away in a good way and wait for some more. Later, I’m taking my time.

Time is a luxury I’m willing to wait, for that moment by moment that leads to the gate of forever…the plan if you are my man. I don’t kiss just to kiss well sometimes I slip.

So in 15 or 20 the date will reveal if you and me can possible be we over time, the real deal, then go deeper…to an hour that is sweeter.


I am a writer, poet, humorist, screenwriter, blogger. I am not a label. Out of tragedy comes comedy. I see hysterical in the simple. This is my head. I live an extraordinary ordinary life. I am inspired, creative, passionate and fiery. I have been through and will continue. I will put it down and hope you pick it up. I am exposed, vulnerable, honest and authentic. I am sarcastic and witty. My favorite thing to do is watch life and laugh and cry and start over again. I invite you to laugh, release and lighten up with me. When life has kicked your butt, it's all about the comedy! Comedy fuels me, poetry soothes me, and dancing ignites...

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2 Comments » for 15 MINUTES, MAYBE 20…
  1. orples says:

    Hi Mary,

    It appears your view on dating resembles my own. Although, I don’ t know that 15 minutes is enough time for me to feel enough of a spark to know if a man has potential for long term anything and I certainly am not as poetic as your are, which I somewhat envy. I did enjoy your view on the subject though. It’s nice to know I’m not the only one trying to balance life in general with dating and the hope that there is a compatible, romantic partner/companion out there somewhere. Good Luck on your endeavors, whatever they might be.

    • Marytg66 says:

      Thank you for your comment Marcy. I wrote this a few years back but wanted to post something to get the blog going. I am intuitive. Fifteen minutes was written at a time when I was trying to cram dating into my life as a single mom with no time. That process led me to write this poem and it rings true in regards to chemistry. Love, friendship, partnering, that’s more than 15 minutes of course. I am a poet so that explains the prose style. I’m following you and commented on the Mayan calendar. I’m ready. I will be reading. Thanks for the inspiration!

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